letters encouraging you to release perfectionism, embrace your humanness, and live more intuitively

Hold your authentic self close
Last week, Dr. Becky posted on how to respond when your kid shows you something — like a piece of art work — that they made. Personally, my instant response is to gush about how much I love their creations. Dr. Becky let me know in her reel that I might want to try a different approach….
And then our couples’ therapist said this…
More than a decade ago, engaged and almost married, Tim and I went to see a therapist together for the first time. We lovingly referred to her as our interpreter, as it seemed there were many instances where we were speaking different languages. That was the first time we sat in her office but it…
How to get what you truly desire
This definition of “desire” might not appear in the Oxford Dictionary, but it’s in the Simi Dictionary and it’s what I live by! Desires are the needs of our soul. We’ve got needs, wants, and desires: Needs: what you require! Check our Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (taking me back to my undergrad sociology courses). Wants: nices-to-haves. Desires:…
Does it feel hard to care for yourself?
Last week, an UNMEASURED member sent me this message: I was so moved when she shared that she is someone who cares about herself and someone who cares for herself. When you think about someone who cares about + for themselves, who do you think of? Do you think of you? If not, and being someone who does feels hard, I’d love…
to workout or not to workout… that’s the question (and this is the answer)
Ever have one of those days when you want to make a loving choice for your future self when it comes to movement… But you aren’t quite sure if that loving choice is to workout or rest? I’ve got a question I ask myself that helps me so much in these moments. If you think…
Read For Better Body Image
As Abraham Hicks said, “a belief is a thought you keep thinking.” How many thoughts have you had about your body that you keep thinking? From very early on in each of our lives, we were exposed to other people’s body beliefs. These beliefs likely come your way through comments directed at you, comments said around…
3 questions to release perfection (& embrace your beautifully imperfect self)
Perfection is a limiting belief and one of the most common ways perfectionism shows up is an all-or-nothing mindset!All-or-nothing thinking can keep you trapped in a cycle of unrealistic expectations, exhaustion, and failure. It can disconnect you from how you feel, what you need, and the present moment. It can cause you to miss out…
confidence, compassion, care, and choosing yourself ❤️ (whoa that’s a lot of alliteration)
After the big UNMEASURED bday bundle sale, I wanted to give your inbox a rest. That rest turned into an unintentional emailing sabbatical. I’m genuinely happy to be here with you now, sipping coffee, and sharing from the heart. In a way, the unintentional sabbatical is very aligned with my “approach” to sharing this year: don’t say…
the *exact* questions I ask myself during my new year ritual
Years ago, when I traded my food rules for intuitive eating, I also traded my January 1 resolutions (which were always about losing weight) for a different ritual. This ritual is something that’s allowed me to feel more in tune with my values, hopes, and dreams. I started taking the first week (or more) of…
First, you’ve got to learn how to hold your instrument.
Tis the season of the cutest thing ever, which was Osh’s holiday concert at school last week. We got to see his sweet little class sing Christmas Carols together, and I thought my heart might melt out of my body. Since his holiday concert included the whole school, we also saw the older kiddos in…