letters encouraging you to release perfectionism, embrace your humanness, and live more intuitively
If Peeing Your Pants Is Cool…
I was a band kid. While I know band kids don’t get the “coolest” rep, there was one group of kids associated with the marching band who were notoriously cool: the drill team. They had these amazing sequin leotards, knee high white boots, and (so it appeared to the commoners) the confidence of a thousand queens….
The hardest thing I’ve done (like harder than the bar exam)
On Tuesday before Christmas, we got some heartbreakingly hard and unexpected news. We got through the kids’ holiday concert with smiles on our faces and the very next day Tim left town to be where he was needed the most. I was going to head out later in the week to join him, once I…
The Year of the Furnace
How are you feeling so far this year? I will not lie: I was ready for 2022 to come to an end! 2022 felt like a year of relentless challenges. One thing and then another a first, but then the cadence started to speed up and soon the challenges were overlapping. Can you relate? I…
People-pleasing to the max in your friendships?
Since early high school, I experienced a lot of anxiety in my friendships. I won’t go into details but I had an experience that sparked a lot of fear about making friends mad, friendship dynamics changing, and losing friends. It impacted me, and the way I showed up in many of my friendships, for decades…
give this a try
This morning, I rolled out my mat to take an UNMEASURED barre class. I was excited to move. Then, I started to take the class — a class I’d taken a few times before (heck, I was the one who created it in the first place) — and it felt hard. Like, harder than any of…
how to feel more confident
In the summer of 2020, I had the incredible experience of completing the Mama Glow doula training program. In the very first class, our mentor Latham Thomas said something that I’ll never forget: “There is a lot to learn, but there is also a lot to remember. This is more about remembering.” She was speaking…
one question today to change your (future) life
We’ve all been through a lot in the past few years. How are you doing?! For me, I realize that the parts of me that shifted into survival mode never really shifted out. The panic around work I felt when the pandemic hit in early 2020 — anxious spirals, chronic multitasking, and an almost constant…
I let myself go.
What’s one of the worst things a woman learns she can do? “Let herself go.” Pause for a moment and think of ALL the ways you’ve received that message over the years. So, it’s no wonder that so many of us are terrified of finding freedom from diet culture, releasing perfectionism, and embracing self-compassion. Are…
Where in your life do you need to hear this the most today?
Tim and I got home a few days ago from a weekend, just us, in Miami. We started an anniversary tradition last year and I’m already counting down the 365 days until we get to do it again. I cherish these trips more than I can put into words! And this is why…If you’ve read Letting…
the inner critic is a lot of things (but creative isn’t one of them)
If I could sum my 2022 up (so far) in a single word it would be healing. The really deep kind that you have to trudge through but you just know will be so worth it. Also that kind that makes you think, “can we be done with this yet?!” And all my healing seems to…