Perfection is a limiting belief and one of the most common ways perfectionism shows up is an all-or-nothing mindset!
All-or-nothing thinking can keep you trapped in a cycle of unrealistic expectations, exhaustion, and failure. It can disconnect you from how you feel, what you need, and the present moment. It can cause you to miss out on a lot of the goodness of everyday life. And, often, it creates a false belief that your worth is dependent on meeting the expectations or following the particular rules.
I could talk to you forever about releasing perfection. Like…
💌 Thoughts on perfection as a limiting belief here
💌 How to release the made up rules (via one of my favorite practices) that keep us trapped in an all-or-nothing mindset here
💌 How “high standards” can actually self-sabotage growth here
💌 A powerful question to ask in any moment to open up your mind when you’re feeling stuck in perfection here
💌 & Letting Go of Leo: How I Broke Up with Perfection (a memoir about overcoming a decades long struggle with feeling like I wasn’t enough) here
Yet, no matter how much I share about this topic, there always seems to be more to dig into, explore, and practice.
If you’ve ever had a situation (I know I have 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️) where you feel like you’ve fallen short, messed up, or things didn’t go the way you had hoped, you may be familiar with the perfectionist spiral and feelings of failure that can follow.
Today, I want to be there for you in that moment by sharing three questions that you can ask yourself.
These three questions will help you to shift from the “fixed” all-or-nothing mindset into a place of growth, where you have permission to embrace your beautifully imperfect self.
First, what do I want to celebrate about this experience?
Perhaps you tried something new, spoke from the heart, or made an effort toward something that matters deeply to you. See if there’s something you want to celebrate and take a moment to acknowledge yourself!
Second, what did I discover here?
I love the saying, “there’s no such thing as failure, only feedback.” What’s the feedback here? What did you learn?
Third, what do you want to try differently next time based on this experience?
Create an empowered path forward that honors your lived experience. Make the next step possible for you here.
If you practice these questions, I’d love to hear how they shift your thoughts, perfective, and experience.